What was your first impression of me, honestly?
Questions for Couples: 72 Questions to Ask Your Partner
72 questions to ask your partner, from the light ones that make you laugh to the deep ones you only ask on a long evening. Draw them at random with the deck below, pick a theme, or read the whole list.
They work for a date night, a road trip, a long-distance video call, or a quiet dinner when you've already talked about work. The rule is simple: you both answer, and nobody is allowed to say "I don't know" without trying.
Ready? Draw your first question.
Getting to know each other
What's a smell that takes you straight back to your childhood?
Which teacher do you still remember, and why?
What did you want to be when you were ten?
What's the best piece of advice you've ever been given?
Which song could you listen to on repeat for a whole day?
What's a small thing that instantly makes your day better?
What were you like as a teenager, in three words?
Which place in the world feels most like home to you?
What's something you're secretly proud of?
Which family tradition would you like to keep?
What do you do when you need to be alone?
About the two of us
When did you know this was more than a crush?
What's your favorite memory of the two of us?
Which of my habits did you find strange at first, and now love?
What's the funniest thing that ever happened to us?
Which trip together would you do again tomorrow?
What do I do that makes you feel loved, without me noticing?
Which of our inside jokes would you explain first to a stranger?
What's something we do better as a team than alone?
Which photo of us is your favorite, and why?
What did you learn about yourself since we've been together?
What would the title of a comic book about us be?
Which day with me would you live again, exactly the same?
Deep questions
What are you most afraid of losing?
When did you last cry, and what about?
What does a good life look like to you?
What's something you've changed your mind about in the last few years?
What do you wish people understood about you?
Which moment of your life made you who you are?
How do you like to be comforted when you're sad?
What's a dream you've never told anyone?
What do you need more of in your life right now?
What would you like to be remembered for?
When do you feel most like yourself?
What's one thing you'd like us to talk about more?
Fun questions
If we were a famous duo, who would we be?
Which animal am I, and which one are you?
What would our reality show be called?
If you could only eat one dish for a year, what would it be?
Which superpower would be useful in our daily life?
Who of us would survive longest on a desert island, and why?
What's the worst gift you've ever received?
If our home had a theme song, what would it be?
Which film would you want us to star in?
What's your most useless talent?
Which of us is the better cook, honestly?
What would you name our future pet?
The future
Where do you see us in five years?
Which country would you like us to live in for a year?
What's one adventure you want us to have before we're old?
What does a perfect Sunday look like for us in ten years?
What tradition would you like us to start?
Which skill would you like us to learn together?
What would our dream home look like?
How would you like to celebrate our next anniversary?
What would you like us to keep, whatever happens?
Which trip should we plan next?
What do you want us to be like as an old couple?
What's one thing you'd like us to stop worrying about?
Would you rather
Would you rather travel back to the day we met, or ten years into the future?
Would you rather have a lazy weekend at home or a surprise trip?
Would you rather we cook together every night, or never cook again?
Would you rather read each other's minds for a day, or never argue again?
Would you rather live by the sea or in the mountains?
Would you rather relive our first date or our best vacation?
Would you rather have a dinner party every week or never host again?
Would you rather know how our story ends, or be surprised?
Would you rather get breakfast in bed or a massage every Sunday?
Would you rather have a song or a book written about us?
Would you rather road trip with no plan or follow a perfect itinerary?
Would you rather we had a pet together or a big garden?
Your answers make a great story
The stories you just told each other are exactly what a personalized comic book is made of: how you met, the trips, the habits only the two of you know, in 24 pages with both of your faces as the characters.
Discover the couple comic book
Frequently asked questions
What people ask us about it.
Questions that ask for a story rather than a yes or no: what was your first impression of me, which day would you live again, what are you most afraid of losing. Mix light ones with deeper ones, and answer them yourself too.
Pick a theme or keep all the questions, then tap "Draw a question". The deck doesn't repeat a question until it has shown them all, so you can play for a whole evening.
No. The 36 questions come from a 1997 psychology study. These questions are our own, written for couples who are already together and want to learn more about each other.
Five to ten is plenty: the best questions lead to long answers and new questions. Take turns choosing the theme.